i don't have this problem, but i have wondered a bit about control of your sexual nature. repression makes it worse, but reinforcing it doesn't work either. i can feel in control of myself for a while, then i find myself walking behind a girl, staring at her ass and getting lost.

so i guess the overarching question is how to deal with basic biological urges when you don't have a girlfriend.

what i do is have sex with girls in dreams (which can get out of hand, too) but obviously that takes more dedication. when i can do that well enough i feel better about the current dry spell in waking life.