Thread: Hot Music Teacher

Dream: I am walking down the corridors of my old junior high and I enter one of the classrooms. The room kinda looks like the one I told Algebra in. As I walk into the class I am walking with a classmate (Amber and I had mutual friends in high school and now since we're in college together we started to become friends) we both take a seat near each other but not close enough. The teacher (whom looks like my 10th grade geometry teacher Mrs. Burger) tells us since we are late that we need to go get a book for the back of the room (in my mind its the first day of school). Amber gets her book first something delays me and then I go back. After I get my book I get ready to go back to my seat and it seems as though Amber and I are seated closer together. I take my seat and it seems as everyone around me starts talking. I am kinda upset because I want to learn the high school course on finance because I figure I will get an easy A since I am taking it in college. I am real depressed then my teacher came and sat with me; however, my teacher is no longer Mrs. Burger and it is no longer Finance. My teacher is a black male, very cute may I add, and all he seems to want to do is talk to me. We some how end up n a room together talking and getting to know each other better. He seemed to be interested in me. I was kinda making advances towards him too. He then told me he didn't know what he was doing trying to get someone as young as me I wanted be interest in someone his age. I then told him that I was dating at 37 yr old black male (My boyfriend in real life is 37 years old and black) and that he shouldn't have n e problems in getting someone like me. He is younger like late 20s early 30s. He then started to kiss me. I hesitated pushing him away but finally I did. I told him I couldn't do that to my boyfriend. I didn't want to leave his room for some reason but when I did I seen my loud mouth sister Dawn and I didn't want her telling my parents or boyfriend I was alone with this guy. I hide under his sheets and he pretty much gave me away when she entered. I ran to his bathroom to hide and he came in there too. He sat on the bathroom floor and kinda begged me to forget my boyfriend and be with him. I kept telling him I couldn't do that and then he showed me his family jewels. The thing came out to his new ok and was thick and I had never imagined possible. He told me he wanted me to take advantage of him and at that point I actually thought of doing it. I kept saying no to myself that I couldn't do that to my boyfriend.

After Dream:My mom woke me up and I didn't get to finish my dream but however this dream is bugging the crap out of me and I was hoping that someone can help me out once again.

Hello,

It feels like you're drawing parallels between your boyfriend and the music teacher; like the music teacher represents/is your boyfriend in your dream.

From what you said in your other post, it seems that you've had to content with your friend's prejudices over dating a black man. Could it be that having to defend him right out of the gate meant that you didn't have a chance to really assess him (especially if it's a new relationship) and how you felt about him in a realistic manner with pros and cons? So maybe your conscious mind now feels it can't address any cons you may have or anything you don't like about the relationship because you are in defensive mode and it feels like it would mean all the detractors are right? So in the dream, you make the music teacher to be your boyfriend where you can act out how you really feel about him - a strong attraction, but it also seems he's pushing you to go further sexually than you might be comfortable with. And yet, your dream has still allowed you to keep defending your boyfriend by making him a seperate figure, one you are protecting while at the same time defending yourself against him more safely as the music teacher. The bit about trying to hide the relationship does seem to indicate perhaps the one incident with prejudice has made you a little wary about others knowing lest you have to go through the same strife again.

As a last point, it does seem in the dream that you are conscious, not of his race, but of dating an older man. Could it be that's an underlying issue that you were never able to address to your own satisfaction? Having been put on the defensive against the prejudice, something that wasn't an issue for you, seems it may have made it very hard for you to seperate in your conscious mind the age issue which might bother you a little?

Hope that helps.

It is hard defending him at times but I know in my heart its the right thing to do. I actually after re-reading see your point about me having to defend him before I could get more into the relationship. The prejudice issues are more under control now and I get to spend more time with him. I will admit that I have had doubts about our relationship but then again I realize its because its new in all ways. He has more experience than me and I am having a problem that he has a child. I only have issues with it not b/c she is born but b/c of the fact that he don't want any more kids and I want that opportunity in the future. Actually my boyfriend and I are both sexually comfortable but we have been hiding our sex life from my family. We feel as though it is not their business. Yet, when they ask, if I do have sex with him I lie. I hate lying to my mom but its not the right time for her to find out. I don't know exactly why I am defending myself against him. Maybe I feel as though being with him won't allow me to be with other men and explore and I lose out on that part of growing or at least thats what my parents keep telling me. I however am comfortable with my being with just one man. I think I was hiding the music teacher from my sister is because in real life my sister has a loud mouth and I don't want to lose my boyfriend. Recently she has told my parents I lost all my friends due to the fact I am dating an older black man. The truth is I don't talk to many of my friends any more because they are still in high school and I am in college. It does bug me sometimes that he is older because I am afraid of loving him and then later on in life losing him to death or other reasons. I love him a lot even though like all men sometimes he's a pain in my butt but I love my him lol. I hope this responds to you and once again Thank you so much for helping me.

It sounds like your dream has given you a few things to think about! That means that your subconscious did it's job and got the message across. If it feels like there are big issues, you might want to give them some serioius thought in whatever way works for you; writing it down and talk to somebody or whatever, just to get it all clear in your head. Do try to sit down with a close friend you can really open up to. Sometimes it really helps to talk about something that's been wearing a rut in our own thoughts; even if the other person doesn't have any advice, it can still at least help to get it out of your head!

Good luck.

Actually my I let my boyfriend in on my dream and he has viewed this forum. After you work what you did and after I replied he called me concerned. We talked for two hours I think that is the longest I focused on a telephone. We talked about all the stuff and last night was the first night in three nights I didn't have any dreams. Thank you so much for all your help. Our relationship actually seems closer now that we got some stuff out in the open. Its all to you and the dream. Thank you so much.

Well, you certainly had that chat with someone close then!

That's really good that you two have talked everything out. It's the best possible thing you could do; keep those lines of communication open!

I am very happy for you. Best wishes and happiness to both of you! What a wonderful Valentine's gift you have given each other with this new closeness!

Warm fuzzies all around!

well many dreams are conversations within our indsa. Perhaps this one links to some of the things that people have been saying. also the dream deals with the specific questions that others are perhaps asking and wondering eg he is an older man. Perhaps he is taking advantage of you in a very sleazy way. Instead the dream shows you taking the lead.It perhaps shows that you are fed up with the attitude of others. Its the specific issue of the age difference perhaps that has caused the dream not so much race.
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