Thread: Same sex dream

Ok I am a 37 year old female. I have had some relationships with women in the past.Inside I am having conversations and issues about what gender I should be involved with long term. Its not clear cut for me. Anyway - I work for a large insurance company and a couple of years back while I was in the cafeteria at work I saw this woman and for the first time in my life I felt something at first sight. I don;t know her and I have never had a conversation with her. I see her rarely in the building. we locked eyes a couple of times. I am not sure if I am attracted to her in lesbian type of way or if for some other reason I destined to meet her. She has appeared in several of my dreams the last few years. Here is a dream i had this afternoon.
Not sure where i was -it almost had a college campus kind of feel to it accept there were apartments and families. I was with a woman and her kids/family- woman A. The woman is an actress that i always found attractive. anyway in my dream she is just a regular woman. Its clear that this woman and I are in geting to know eachother in a romantic way. I spend the night - no sex. In the morning I interact with her family - adults and kids but she is not there. I can;t clearly recall why she is not there but I think she went to talk to a man that she was or is romantically involved with but In the dream I am ok with this and very comfortable with her family. I start to put my clothes on and I reach into the closet and get my pants but i don;t put them on. I walk out of the apartment holding these pants still on the hanger- I believe I have no other pants on. I leave this apartment type place then from there I am outside in this court like college campus looking area. My car is nearby and people are walking around nobody is pointing or anything at me for not having any pants on. It seems like I see or I need to get to the mac machine -people are in line for it. I am still at the original location. At this time I see the woman from work that i mentioned above- woman B . She is walking with another woman - woman C- also from my work building - (I see her with this woman most times- I guess they are friends lunch buddies co-workers etc.) . It seems like Woman B came to pick up woman C from work and they were going out for lunch - this location seemed to transpire into a work location sort of . Anyway I notice Woman B and I immediately try to hide or not be seen by her (Even at work I go the other direction when I see her - she doesn;t know me but I guess its shyness or being uncomfortable with what I feel) . I walk away to get cover but at the same time I position myself to see her get into her car and drive away. In the dream i was wondering if she was going to drive or be the passenger. She was the driver and the car was a large model BMW. at work i have seen her in a smaller bmw of a lighter color. After she drives off I wake up. as far as i know I never put on those pants and my intention when i left Woman A's house was that i was running an errand and returning within a few minutes.

ok so i had another dream about the woman I have seen in my building at work. I don;t recall ever having back to back dream with her included in the dream. And i do know this is the first dream or the first vivid dream in which i actaully interact and talk with her.


So I am at work but not in any place that looks familiar its a room that kind of big and its my desk and woman A's desk. we are working. outside of our area i believe its a regular work set up cube like place where others work. I seem comfortable in her presence but in the beginning we have no rapport. I spend time on the phone doing work stuff I go outside of my immediate work are to do some work stuff and some chatting with others in cubes and offices.Back at my desk there is a guy who appears out of nowhere he doesn;t work there but yet he is no out of place. I guess he is pursuing me romantically I am somewhat familiar with him but his dress and personality is very funny to me . I kind of laugh at him and not wit him. Woman A witnesses this but we have no converasation about it. Some time later i am sitting at work and i get a call from another woman - she seems to be a friend of a work friend. I find it strange in the dream that she is calling me. anyway we chat about nothing really then towards the end of the conversation she asks or mentions something about me giving her a ride home. I don;t recall giving her an answer. From this point I talk with woman A about this woman who basically only called me about a ride home because we are not friends . We laugh about it. I seem to avoid eye contact with her but i am pretty comfortable talking to her and my objective seems to be to get her to laugh. From there the dream jumps. its a bunch of us - me , woman A, 2 other women - one of which i believe is the woman who asked me for a ride and a man who appears to be a boyfriend of one of them. anyway we appear to be on this journey . i don't know about our destination but apparently it involves alot of walking. doesn't appear to be a dangerous situation at all - we are all laughing and having a good time. we are walking mostly indoors and alot of other people are around . its almost like a huge indoor mall type of place that we are meandering our way through. at some point we lose Woman A and we start to look for her - we split up and stay together to look for her. Fianlly she is found resting on a car outside of the place in which we are doing our journey. 2 women and the man find her - its bg parking lot . me and the other woman see them from a distance and walk towards them. Woman A is laughing - she thinks it funny. One of the women chews her out for walking off. She is very fit so we didn;t think she would be the one who needed a but apparently for wahtever reason she want to rest so she laid with her feet on one car and her upper body on another car- the middle part of her body was not supported. One of the women urges me to chime in and chew her out but i walk away in slight anger with Woman A that she would do that. we were all peaved but it was not a violent overly confrontational situation. Then I wake up.

Welcome to the forum,

Sorry to sound all pointless and all, but this should be posted in another forum, like the dream discussion forum.

Originally Posted by Jdeadevil

Welcome to the forum,

Sorry to sound all pointless and all, but this should be posted in another forum, like the dream discussion forum.

lol! does it matter - its not like this is an extra busy forum . I posted under dream interpretation because thats what i wanted.

I think you have these dreams because of your curiosity about this woman. Sleeping with woman A (first dream) and not having sex with her probably means you're not interested in any other woman but woman B. Also, going about your errand without pants may imply that you're sexually attracted to woman B. Just my personal interpretation, don't take it too seriously cause I'm no expert or anything even remotely close to that!

Originally Posted by MrGrEmLiN

I think you have these dreams because of your curiosity about this woman. Sleeping with woman A (first dream) and not having sex with her probably means you're not interested in any other woman but woman B. Also, going about your errand without pants may imply that you're sexually attracted to woman B. Just my personal interpretation, don't take it too seriously cause I'm no expert or anything even remotely close to that!

Thank you !!!!! something to think about

Originally Posted by Tracy37

lol! does it matter - its not like this is an extra busy forum . I posted under dream interpretation because thats what i wanted.

Dreams about anyone are, in my opinion, more about our own desires than about that particular person. If you're dreaming about romance with another woman then there is a part of you that wants that feeling of being loved by a woman. It's entirely up to you whether you choose to gratify that desire with a woman IRL.

The dream is telling you something important about yourself. Sounds like it isn't necessarily sexual but is more about wanting to love and relate. The warning I would give is that another person can never be our dream lover. Not for long, anyway. Our dream lover is exactly that, a lover in our dreams.

Originally Posted by Burned up

Dreams about anyone are, in my opinion, more about our own desires than about that particular person. If you're dreaming about romance with another woman then there is a part of you that wants that feeling of being loved by a woman. It's entirely up to you whether you choose to gratify that desire with a woman IRL.

The dream is telling you something important about yourself. Sounds like it isn't necessarily sexual but is more about wanting to love and relate. The warning I would give is that another person can never be our dream lover. Not for long, anyway. Our dream lover is exactly that, a lover in our dreams.

Thanks for your input. I have no lovers in these dreams most times when i do have lovers in a dream they are usually with people i don;t associate in any way with sex. I think people in dreams don;t play the obvious role they are playing .

well dreams to me symbolise the everyday thoughts and dilemmas. They should correspond to actual thoughts and conceptual feelings. For instance think of conceptual ways in which you have been relating to your own sexuality. Perhaps then the dream means this

"I have been wondering about my own sexuality. I have certain feelings towards this woman at work. I know I like her yet I am confused. Can we feel these feelings similataneously. "

Overall I think your dreams show you wondering over what is acceptable behavior and what you feel is behavior that is natural. You are unsure about how to act and feelings about your sexuality make you awkward.
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