Thread: ex girlfried dreams are bothering me.help

no insight huh?ok then.

Wait some time man, don't rush. Maybe I'll come to this later. Read my thread about solving problems with help of dreams for now, I'm sure it will help you out.

I read it lastnight. My guess is false closure. I especially was thinking about the ending as you describe her as proud but walking away from the problem instead of fixing it. But this is about you. It may be not her but the reason for the breakup that is bothering you, perhaps a bad and unlikely reason, something that's not suppose to happen but did.
I think that you are not entirely convinced that it's so simple and you still have questions (like I would.) You said you don't know what the hell to think. You want to know why she cheated in the first place. You dream a lot about her mother hugging you, meaning that you are good.
My speculation is that you have self doubts based on what happened to you. You might still be in love with her, the relationship should not have ended, and it wasn't your choice to end it. On the surface it seems you want to rekindle. But under that I think you have self doubt and uncertainty that this won't happen to you again. That's irrational of course, it all says more about her than you, but I would not expect your subconscious to be rational.

thanks you guys. i guess i ll check back later when there is more input thanks ameslari and inspirer. so inspirer. are you trying to say that the only reason i dream of her is cause it is something that shouldnt of ended. i mean the day i caught her with the guy she left with him and then slept with him the same night, which i think she was taken advantage of yet it is her choice. she told me she regrets it(like anyone else would say)but i know she does that is why she ignores me. i work with her for the same company. the guys she is seeing are younger than her but everyone tells me they are nothing like me.im not perfect but i know where i faulter and admit to my faults.. she just doesnt want to deal with the problem that she created and to me it is irrational. maybe that is why i dream of her. cause we love eachother and it shouldnt of ended but she chose the path and all i can do is dream of her. if i viewed something wrong let me know. should i just forget these dreams or slowly creep my way back in to show her "hey,you were always in love, you just didnt know it"i had another one again about her last night. to me it seems like within time there will be something that reunites us. im just wondering what that is. yes it is irrational to think it wont happen again.hmmm. im sorry i ramble, but these dreams are getting to me and it is known to me that many of my dreams have come true.do i posses something special cause i have them come true many times. .please help me to under stand. thank you all

update. i had another dream again.
well i was in a house and all the sudden i was holding my exgirlfriend in my arms. except that it was as if she jump sideways and i caught her. she held on and she held on very close. then she wanted a kiss. well i gave her one then she grab on a little tighter around the neck like she didnt want me to let go. after that i woke up and just sat around pondering like always about why i cant just let her go or why subcounciously i cant let her go.im trying people but ugh.. i just dont get it. everynight is a dream or everyother night ill dream of her. maybe i cant let her go i guess. but i know dreams mean something. maybe if i can tell her i feel in my dreams she ll know. any insight is appreciated

One possibility is that it's not about her but her character quality, running away from a problem instead of dealing with it. Maybe you are doing the same somehow, that may or may not be relevent to the relationship.

Is this the only girlfriend you have had?

Your dreams tell you a story with something to learn. Dreams symbols are like a reverse dictionary. Instead of looking up a word and telling you what it means, the dream symbols represent a meaning, i.e. a feeling or emotion. The symbol correlates to a general feeling, although it is specific, this meaning applies to you. It is not necessarily the only thing that has that meaning for you.

For example, if your subconscious mind thinks you are afraid, and wants you to learn to become fearless, it will tell you a scary story. Your subconscious mind will find something that exemplifies your fear, perhaps clowns or an angry dog. Then you will see a clown in your dream when the story's lesson is "look how afraid you are".

With you, you have had the same girlfriend for the last three years. You love her, care for her, and it's likely what you think of when you associate something with the word "loving" or "caring". So your ex-girlfriend does not represent your ex-girlfriend, she represents something you care about. It is possible that your dreams are following the same pattern of "look how loving you are".

If that does not help, I too recently had a dream where the girl that I have the strongest feelings for came right back into my path. Then she saw me, smiled, and kept walking away when I thought she would stay. I went after her, and she was always just out of reach.

Then a day or two later, feelings started developing for this other girl. I believe the dream was telling me someone I care about is right around the corner. I mean it hurt a lot to see her come and go, but now looking back, I'm alright.

Then three nights later, last night. I was on a grassy field with my 3-year old nephew and I went over to him, called him "My ______" since that's how he refers to me. He hugged me and called me the exact same thing. He's someone else I care about...I think both dream symbols refer to this new girl that's been on my mind.

Love vs. Power

The trouble with Relationships is that the person who loves the least has all the power. The person who loves the most is in a desparate situation. The person who can take the relationship or leave it is in the position to call all the shots.

The paradox here is that people often do not care about love if it is made too easy for them. Being desparately dependent does not make a pretty picture. By making yourself totally dependent upon someone else, it is likely to make that other person anxious. Who really wants that kind of responsibility?

Anyway, with this 'girlfriend' of yours, you have absolutely no power in the relationship. She screwed around on you and you STILL want her back. That is not good. She may have even been testing you to see if you had any power, and you clearly showed that you didn't. Forget her. You need to find a girl whom you love just enough to want, but not so much that you aren't afraid to 'crack the whip' a little bit. You need to let her know through various subtle signals that you expect a certain level of behavior from her or you simply will forget her phone number and move on. She has to feel that you are something of an acquisition and a challenge. She has to think that you are a Man.

well i would like to thank all you for your imput. it helps alot. i agree with leo volont and distant clone. no this is not the only girl i have had. i have had five. but this is one that left a great impact on me cause i always wanted to make she was safe and loved. i know im not the perfect boyfriend, but if love is to easy to many people maybe they dont know what true love is. to me true love is unconditional no matter what. they probably picture love as they do on movies,songs, others life experiences with love. PERFECT. but as soon as troubles shake the cage of love too many try escape. i think alot of has to do with a sex being so exaggerated in af relationship. yes it is important. but if that is what is important than you are lusting not loving. the power of love leo v. i think you are right. but im glad she doesnt know she has that power and aware she has the power, but she doesnt have the power of love guiding her but when she does come around then i have the other end of the stick(not neccesarily start a relationship but perhaps to mend things you know). i have the power to forgive and forget. but at this point i think i ll analyze my dreams a little different from now on. your guys help alot believe it or not. maybe i should just let go. i love her so much but i have to watch out for myself from now on.