Whenever I try to interpret dreams I try to keep things simple, sometimes I think it is too easy to get wrapped up in the symbology and over-analyzing. Something I think makes more sense to do here is focus on your emotions during the dream. How did you feel?

From what you've told us, it's clear you felt like you lost control. You were also very embarrassed about something to the point that you must hide it from the public, and you only felt comfortable sharing this secret with a very select few people. What alarmed you was that you had grown male appendages... that despite your identity being female, you would now be labeled as a male, or worse, you had actually become male.

Now that we have identified some of these feelings, can you relate any of them to your daily life over the past few years? Perhaps you have been picking up habits or responsibilities that normally belong to men. Have you been in any situations where you had completely lost control, or things were entirely out of your hands?