Thread: dream interpretation

ok i used to date this girl. she broke up with me. but we still see each other. with no commitment. basically a couple days ago. i told her. if she still wants to see me i need commitment. which means to me. not messing around with any one else. and only share a bed with me and crap. well she was like ok i can do that. but then she freaked out the next day and got really nervous cuz she said i was making rulez now. i was like it shouldnt be a big deal to follow these. and she doesnt like that i dont fully trust her cuz she broke promises to me in the past. well last night i had a dream that me her my brother and his gf were in a store. well actually we were at my apt. first. and i opened a door and i saw him kissing her. i got sorta mad. well at the store. they both went into the bathroom and they had sex. i know they did. i just didnt see it. remember this is the dream. lol. well i told my bros gf that he was cheating on her after he told me not to. but i was jelouse so i did. and then when the girl i was seeing was alone. im like "WHY R U HELPING HIM CHEAT ON HIS GF!!!!??" she started to cry and when she stoped crying she told me she loved me. but when she turned around she rolled her eyes. in real life we used to tell each other we love eachother . and that just hurt. but yeah. when i woke up i was furious. and last night i was contimplating on ending it totally with her. but after that dream. for some reason i dotn really want to. can anyone tell me what the meaning of this dream might be. oh and i havnt been here in a while. it feels good to be back

PLZ GIVE ME SOME ADVICE

is any one gonna help me?

Originally posted by pdiddles03
is any one gonna help me?

Patience, young one.

I usually take my time thinking about dreams before I come up with an interpretation; much like most interpreters. Some dreams take much longer than others. Although, this is usually the case of individual interpretation and psyotherapy.. not.. the internet..

Anyways..

I'll get back to you, when I'm not at school.

My quick guess is; you're thinking of breaking up over an irrational reason to indulge in something else.

thanks for the reply. can any one else guess what it is. i know i have to use my interpretation of it. but i like to hear other peps. maybe its a sign for me not to break up with her or somthing. i dunno

Originally posted by pdiddles03
is any one gonna help me?

Well, your subconscience may be reviewing your sadness, & despair. Many times in a dream, I would think about my boyfriend who died, & I would wake up crying. This happens during times of sadness, & I should know. When things that make you sad weigh on your mind, especially b4 you go to sleep, then you may have nightmares about them.
But don't worry! It was only a dream. Besides, we here at Dream Views are here for you, especially Seeker & Icedawg. Just try to calm down about that, like I am trying to recover from my loss.
Oh, & please don't be so demanding in your messages. Be patient, b/c some of us have to work, or have homework & may not be able to help you for maybe a few days at the most.

I used to interperet dreams for people often in the past, so I'll give it a wack. First however, like I'm sure you've heard, anything in your dreams is constructed by your design so you are the best interperetor. This is just my opinion, so take it with a grain of salt.

I believe that your subconscious is just reflecting your conscous attitude (you don't trust her). It's not precognitive, it's just that you're entertaining the idea of entering into a relationship with a preconceived outcome and your dreams are reflecting that. Perhaps you might try telling her how you feel instead of creating rules for her to fallow. Ultimately, we are all human and tend to fuck-up royally at some point in our lives (some more than others). Give her enough room to make her own choices to either profit or lose by them. If her choices are to much for you to bear, then do yourself a favor and move on. Best of luck!

But, that's just my opinion, there are many who think I'm not right in the head.

hey i think ur interpretation was the best. thanks alot man. sounds like ur right to me. i dont think it is worth stayinging in a relationship with her though.

I think the pathman is right. You cant feel secure in a relationship with no rules. One where you have to trust that she really wants you and only you, because in your heart you know something is wrong on her end and well maybe you have trouble trusting. And you have that right. You want commitment but she cant commit.

Trouble trusting though is likely linked to self esteem issues with you and how much a part of your identity this relationship has become. In high school I always had messed up relationships and they where very cyclic. Somehow I would forget the pattern until another one had gone down the tubes. When I got some self respect I started walking on by and I found that healthier and (oddly) more beautiful women starting showing interest.

As far as leaving her, maybe just set some boundaries. Like say "I am going to be your friend but thats it." Because then you are still in her life and if she keeps trying to screw with your emotions you can just end it. But if she starts to value you the way you apparently value her well things can come on again. If she cares about you she will be sensitive to the fact that you may lack self esteem. Some people will and some people won't invest in that. My wife invested in me and I'm glad she did but there was an acknowledgment upfront that we both had issues and that we were both going to work towards a healthy relationship.

You know there are thousands of eligible young ladies just waiting to meet someone like you. My experience has been that emotional rescue operations end up sucking ass big time, so if you are not planning on marriage I would think about dropping the whole damn thing. I hope thats not too graphic.

So you have to know (I guess its a learned thing) when a project is worth undertaking. In the time it takes for your love to unscrew one poor girl's head you could have graduated from college got a masters degree and taught 1000 chinese youth what it means to be free and oh by the way also met the girl of your dreams.

So my question to you is do you know when you are in over your head? Are you letting her play you? Is it possible this is just both of you playing a game because you are bored or otherwise feel trapped? I'm not trying to be rude. Ultimately you hold the secret to understanding your own dreams and you hold all the keys to your future. There may be rules to the game of life, but the best players all find a way to win, however you may define that word.

The best thing you may be able to do for her is to set some boundaries, the best thing you may be able to do for yourself is walk away, which also accomplishes the first thing in this sentence. I guess ultimately there is a skill set that you can gain for either healing or developing healthy relationships but most people never quite get it. They either learn accidently from their parents how to do it right or they spend their life suffering in one bad relationship after another. So here's the exclamation mark, each day belongs to the same lifetime and the choices you make now build habits that you will have to deal with later, do you want health or do you want games?

EJ

thanks elijah. like ur reply. yeah this isnt very healthy for me. i want the commitment. but she doesnt. i still have alot of feeling for her though. but yeah. its just better to end it all. for good. ill still be her friend though. yeah. well thanks for everyones input. thanks everyone

i didnt read all the other post replies, but this is what i have aquired thru books and shit like that..... alot of times signs of ppl working against u means in reality they r actuallyy working 4 u , (example) if u have a dream to not trust a person, then u shud trust them, and things of that nature.... im not sure if its true 4 every1, but its true 4 me