Crossing the border to lucid dreaming.

[Mocari]

Hi lucid dreamers, As a little anti-realist (world = mind) lucid dreaming is a very interesting phenomenon to me. And especially the part in which a dream turns lucid in relation to the control You gain over Your dream. Sadly, i myself have only had 2 such occurrences during my life. And it is hard to find the time and attention to teach me to become a frequent lucid dreamer (though i am most likely going to at some point). I'd like You to describe to me the situation, the feelings, and the realisations/thoughts that go through You when the change occurs, as detailed as You possibly can. At first i thought that merely the realisation that You are dreaming (i.e. thinking up the world) was enough to influence it. But apparently being aware that You are dreaming does not guarantee control. This is interesting to me as it is not immediately logical. Also, the control appears to be limited. In what ways is Your control limited? Is it limited because You wake up if You cross a certain set of rules? Are the rules different per dream? Or is it simply impossible for You to do it?