hey guys, thanks for the replies,
i think some background information is in order though...

i've been lucid dreaming for about 9 months consciously (about 2 or 3 times a week when trying), and alot longer unconsciously, so its not inexperience thats the problem,

i was thinking about this yesterday and started thinking, does anyone know of any excersises that can help with will power? i've recently started to meditate, and found that its helping alot, but any techniques, or really any other comments are helpful, thanks.