Thread: tantalizing sex tease???

I'm really starting to think it's a guy thing. Males seem to have a lot more trouble with sex in dreams than females. It's the first lucid thing I did, and I had to learn not to do it, so I could do other things.

I'm sure it's not true for all men, and can be overcome. Good luck.

Howie I guess my topics are one of the discussions that sparked this thread lol? Thats fine. I have no clue though. Tonight Im going to FILD and hopefully try not to have sex but gets goals done like shoot lighting and fire

Perhaps this is a reflection of your current love life, lack there of, etc (of which I know nothing of of course ).

Originally Posted by MoonBeam

I'm really starting to think it's a guy thing. Males seem to have a lot more trouble with sex in dreams than females. It's the first lucid thing I did, and I had to learn not to do it, so I could do other things.

Wow. I never took this into consideration. That would add a lot of possibilities.
Possibly giving my self too much credit, I had thought maybe my learned, bedded in morals, were in part, preventing me from acting.

What difference between the male and females perspective could this imply? What do you think MoonBeamer?
"Learn not to do it." -

Maybe it is the males punishment for being pigs. Dirty filthy sex mongers.

Originally Posted by Mes

Perhaps this is a reflection of your current love life, lack there of, etc

This would certainly seem on the surface to manifest those type of dreams.
I do not have them often, which one would think I am not lacking in that manner. At the same time, being out of reach may seem to go in the same direction?

Originally Posted by lonestarx

Howie I guess my topics are one of the discussions that sparked this thread lol? Thats fine. I have no clue though. Tonight Im going to FILD and hopefully try not to have sex but gets goals done like shoot lighting and fire

I'm actually not sure of your topic. Could you direct me to it/them?
Mine was spawned from my own dream experiences.

Thanks thanks and thanks!

Originally Posted by Howie

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I believe that it is normal to have fantasies. To a degree.

I of coarse think it is wrong in waking life to get over engrossed in, or act upon your fantasies.

Thats a good point...if you will go nuts with your imagination = daydreaming = fantasies...then you will sleep better..
and you will rest more...but it wont change much of the problem.

Originally Posted by roguext22

Thats a good point...if you will go nuts with your imagination = daydreaming = fantasies...then you will sleep better..
and you will rest more...but it wont change much of the problem.

So you think the opposite would work?

I'm a lucid virgin.
Well unless you consider - I did not have sexual relations with that woman

Originally Posted by Howie

Wow. I never took this into consideration. That would add a lot of possibilities. [
Possibly giving my self too much credit, I had thought maybe my learned, bedded in morals, were in part, preventing me from acting.

Well, I think you would know if that were the case.

Originally Posted by Howie

What difference between the male and females perspective could this imply? What do you think MoonBeamer?

I was having a conversation with someone about the fact that males should be able to have multiple orgasms in lucid dreams, because ultimately it's all in the mind, right? There shouldn't be a physiologic reason stopping him, but maybe it was too ingrained from IRL to stop after one. Just like I have trouble getting thru solid objects in dreams, because I can't IRL. If he could get past that, there'e no reason it shouldn't be possible.

I know not all males have trouble with this; I've posts where they are describing having orgasms in dreams, but it seems like there are a lot more where they have to avoid it to avoid waking up. That seems a similar problem--I don't know why they wake up when females seem to be able to do it easily and stay in the dream, but surely since it is really all in the mind, that could be overcome too, if you wanted to put enough effort into it.

Originally Posted by Howie

Maybe it is the males punishment for being pigs. Dirty filthy sex mongers.

I hope you are joking--if not, we may have found the source of the problem.

Originally Posted by Howie

So you think the opposite would work?

I'm a lucid virgin.
Well unless you consider - I did not have sexual relations with that woman

lol..go nuts with whatever you want to do, in your fantasies...

This idea sparked from reading Moonbeam's posts, if you're having trouble getting some as a guy why not try it from the other side? Change yourself into a female and see if that works.. just for the hell of it. I've had sex as a guy in lucid dreams and it is very different experience. Come to think of it there were a couple of times I did it as a guy I did wake up before I orgasmed.

We'll find a way for you to lose that lucid virginity yet Howie.

I did it as a man once and it seemed pretty similar at the end.

Come to think of it there were a couple of times I did it as a guy I did wake up before I orgasmed.

Very different than real life eey?

Originally Posted by Vex Kitten

This idea sparked from reading Moonbeam's posts, if you're having trouble getting some as a guy why not try it from the other side? Change yourself into a female and see if that works.. just for the hell of it. I've had sex as a guy in lucid dreams and it is very different experience.

We'll find a way for you to lose that lucid virginity yet Howie.

Now this seems odd. Never thought of that.
I have been a woman in my dreams four times before. I felt like I had the perspective of a woman. But that can only be what all the data that my brain has processed to what I think it would be like. Just as I have been other people. I can't truly know their feelings.
At any rate, what I desire is the female. If I did do this, do you think it would alleviate that?
When you both were men in your dreams, did you desire woman consciously ? Did you make it a point to desire a man or did it come natural.

( just have to throw this out there)
If you did, could that be a possible desire to experience affection from a woman to woman perspective?


This has become very deep. A lot of subconscious variables.

You describe your psyche not allowing you to act it out? I'm not sure what that means?

I will tell you what I struggled with and what the simple solution was. When I was focusing on LD sex as a milestone, I was flirting with or otherwise propositioning woman. Their responses ranged from no to out right chuckles.

The solution to this problem was simple. When I approach a woman in a LD, I just start kissing, fondling, removing clothes etc ... expecting her to go with that flow. That works 100% of the time.

Perhaps that will help?

Ive only had two lucid dreams in my life. Only one of those that i had semi-full control over.

I was flying and talking to a bird. When I decided to try to change it into a sex dream, I woke up.

Pretty disappointing. But what somebody said about changing your sex and having sex..? I dont understand how you could change into a man from woman.

Explain ?

Originally Posted by moe007

Pretty disappointing. But what somebody said about changing your sex and having sex..? I dont understand how you could change into a man from woman.

We're talking about dreams, remember? All things are possible. This is actually low to midway-difficult in the spectrum of dream control for me--harder than flying, easier than going thru walls or conjuring objects.

Originally Posted by Moonbeam

We're talking about dreams, remember? All things are possible. This is actually low to midway-difficult in the spectrum of dream control for me--harder than flying, easier than going thru walls or conjuring objects.

Yeah even though in dream, I dont understand how you would do that? Imagine yourself the opposite, and look down? Haha check to see if you grew boobs?

Ive flown before like i said in my above post, but it was such low lucidity that when i tried to change the scene i woke up.

I doubt if i tried to grow boobs id be successful

Same way you do anything else in a lucid, which is kind of hard to explain. You just have to "know" it will work. In my case, I can't fake it--it happens automatically (flying, sex-change, conjuring, etc). If I have to think about it too much, it usually won't work right.

And if you think you won't be successful, you probably won't.

Originally Posted by Moonbeam

Same way you do anything else in a lucid, which is kind of hard to explain. You just have to "know" it will work. In my case, I can't fake it--it happens automatically (flying, sex-change, conjuring, etc). If I have to think about it too much, it usually won't work right.

And if you think you won't be successful, you probably won't.

I dont know, ive only had two lucid dream, one of which i did NOTHING in, i just knew i was dreaming and enjoyed the scenery then woke up.

The other one was when i flew, which was the first lucid dream i ever had. But i also woke up


My next lucid dream im going to try all these things, to see if i get the hang of it

It just takes practice. It took me a long time to make progress on some things; other things came easier. Just keep trying. Good job on the flying--some people find that really hard to do.

I generally do not focus too much attention on sex. I do not seek sex out as I become lucid. However, if the dream content is present when I do become lucid, well it quite frankly is hard to resist.
Then if I go to act on this feeling the whole thing goes aerie.

Next time I will play hard to get.

Hey Moony -could you elaborate on my post after yous?

This one? Sorry, I didn't see the question in it before.

Originally Posted by Howie

When you both were men in your dreams, did you desire woman consciously ? Did you make it a point to desire a man or did it come natural.

The time I can remember off-hand, I was with a woman in a bed and something scary was going on. For some reason I thought she would feel better if I was a man, so I turned into one. Then it just sort of naturally happened.

Like I was telling moe, it was like other lucid accomplishments--I didn't think too much about it, I didn't even think about if I could do it or not, I just did it.

I can't remember another time right now, but I'm sure it would have been the same way. The one time I forced a sex-change was for the lucid task of the month, and I didn't have sex--it was all I could do to get my reflection to change.

I don't know if you want to start incubating something, but that's what I would do. Sometimes my incubations take a long time, I'll think and think, then several months later I'll just find myself spontaneously doing what I had long since given up on. Maybe that would work.

So lots of sex-incubation for you. Maybe you could imagine a DC doing all the work--I think I read about someone else (a guy) who tried this; instead of him approaching the DC, he "willed" her to do it all. If you want to do the sex-change thing, I'm not sure what to incubate exactly, but maybe you can think of something.

LOL I'm a male and I have absolutely no problem having sex in dreams, lucid or otherwise. In fact, when I do have sex dreams I usually have sex with every female I see.

I'm actually quite the opposite IRL, preferring to be a little more reserved and not so aggressive though I do get "some".

Originally Posted by Howie

I wanted to get the members take on a general perspective of this particular situation.

thanks guys/gals <>

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Originally Posted by Howie

When you both were men in your dreams, did you desire woman consciously ? Did you make it a point to desire a man or did it come natural.

( just have to throw this out there)
If you did, could that be a possible desire to experience affection from a woman to woman perspective?


This has become very deep. A lot of subconscious variables.

I was a guy so naturally I went for a female, not really because i desired to but because it was sort of the thing to do I guess.

I also had lucid sex with a guy while I was a guy and that was very odd. It felt good but not quite right or substantial?

I agree with Moonbeam, let the DC do all the work. That kind of worked out in a couple of my last lucid sexcapades. The DC's did everything and all i had to do was lay back and relax. Put on the charm and I'm sure you'll win some lucky lady DC over.

You girls have given me a lot of good insight and I thank you for that.
I also posted this in my DJ. But the twist (not in green) is why I posted here as well
thoughts?



A rather odd dream. I awoke at 4:40 A.M. and I could not go back to sleep.

I was in my old room at another house I now rent. For a good portion of time it was my room growing up.
I was in the room and a girl from the bank that I go to entered the room. Wooo. OK. She is a cute little thing. I was excited < ya know The odd part is she acted as if we had been going out for a long time. Things progressed in a physical way. It was very nice. Afterwards she said, "well I am going to move in next Tuesday." (do you quote DCs? ) To my surprise because I really had the mind set that we just began going out, I guess?
I got out of bed and began to clean my shotgun. This was now important for some reason. To my confusion, she kept rambling on about moving in blah blah. *The Weird twist. I looked up and now in the bed was a man. HE too acted like we have been a couple. Confusion. How did this come to be? He took off his shirt. He was a scrawny little weasel. I felt disgusted. Violated in a way. I felt like I was manipulated and also felt guilt for putting myself in that situation. I thought my homo phobic days were long gone thing of my youth. But I am now awake and have a pit in my stomach.
I wonder if I had become lucid what might have unfolded?