Thread: help!! There is a blockage in my lucid dreams

I have difficulty having total control and there seems to be some kinda thing hindering me all the time lately.

6/27: I find myself in my room, do a hand RC then realize I am dreaming. I am thrilled and try to get off from my bed but I feel paralyzed. I tried to crawl and heave myself but I just can't. I tell myself it is all in my head and that I could control it, but it didn't work. I coul barely even turn my head to the side, then the scene ended.

7/5: I realize I am dreaming out of the blue and again find myself in my room. I am upright and am all ready to go but I hear a buzzing noise and im afraid its a bug, I finally try to convince myself its just a dream and I get up anyway but I suddenly feel extremely sleepy and I can't fight it no matter how hard I try. Then I dozed off and I wake up instantly.

7/12: In my dream some guy was telling me if I wanted to shoot up in the sky on a line or something like that and I kinda wanted to do it but it sounded hella frightening and dangerous but I refused. I then became lucid and was thinking of trying it but decided not to and tried to brush him away. I tried to get rid of him but he kept following me. There was a door and I managed to leave and slam it behind me but it didnt work because he was there again. (I was not scared of the man, just annoyed cuz i wanted to do other things since i became lucid). I finally had to kill him and he was finally gone. SO I'm walking around and theres a lot of people and it keeps feeling like people are hovering over me like grabbing me wherever I turn so that I can barely move in freedom, i try shoving them away, I even "wish" them away but they are so annoying trying to hinder me.
Then I finally leave. I decide to fly and try to grow wings on my arms but nothing happens to me. but then i am able to fly without it. (i just dont know why it doesnt appear when I intend it to).
(I have also had multiple dreams where I turn around EXPECTING to see someone but they dont appear).

7/13: In this dream I feel like there is more freedom I am able to see the person I wanted to see (because I happened to be at a place where they would normally be in real life). However a little later when im talking to the person i realize it just isnt the same because there face looks slightly different. so then anyway, again another hindrance follows. SUddenly it is very windy and I feel like im losing control and I can barely walk. I yell, "Windyness STOP!" but it doesnt work. It finally fades after a while (i think I might have woke up and fell back asleep?) but it didnt leave when I commanded it to.

Why dont I have full control even though I know its in my power and I try? Anyone know what I can do??

Is there something vexing you irl lately? A while back I couldn't fly in a LD. I finally had one where I met up with my mother in my house. I kicked her out in a non nice manner and was able to fly effortlessly afterward. After that dream I realized she had been on my mind alot and she, when i first found out about lucid dreaming, referred to it as witchery and devil worship. I think with her on my mind and that sub concious recollection of her negativity towards LDing was what held me down for a while there. Once I kicked her the hell out of my lucid dreams I was fine. For a while.

I've experienced loss of control too and it usually clears up when hectic things in my life finally settle. Maybe there is something that needs settling in you before you can regain good dream control?

I think Kitten has a good point. Also you may not FULLY believe that you can do the things you're trying to do. I call it a mental block. I don't fully believe I can transform into a nonliving object, therefore when I try, even when I think I believe I can, it doesn't work. For a long time I couldn't fly, and there's no explanation. Then one time I was dreaming, became lucid, tried to fly, and all that happened was I jumped. So I sat down for a second, got back up and said "oh for crying out loud, it's a bloody dream!!" And I just took off flying.

Part of the reason for your loss of control is most likely your subconscious being so used to not being able to control nature or other things. You become paralyzed etc. Even if you can tell me that right at this moment, you truly do believe that you can do anything in a dream, the problem is the past. Read up on something called schemas. Basically even if you believe, your subconscious remembers all the times you have failed, or lost control, and therefore links LUCID DREAM with FAILURE.

This is just a theory, I could be way off, but I feel that is linked to the past times you have lost control. Really you must understand that everything...EVERYTHING is in your complete control. You are the god of your sleepland, and the universe is at your fingertips on a silver platter. or gold...whatever colour you want it to be

If you continue to lose control still, I would recommend some binaural beat technology, and listen to beats on the theta range. In concurrence with that, use affirmations- "I am in control. The dreamworld is under my command. With affirmations, remember to say things as if they are true NOW..not what they WILL be. I think that should do nicely. Hope this helps

Thanks, that was helpful.

There is nothing really vexing me lately, ive actualy been more at ease than usual this summer. Unless theres some inner conflict im not aware of. But I do believe it could be my subconscious associating the past failed attempts. Lately I have been realizing more aften that im dreaming (this week 4 days out of 7) compared to once a month like before. I think I should try affirmations.
Do you think verbalizing things out loud is better than thinking them in your mind?

I wasn't even aware of the mother thing until after I kicked her out of a lucid dream. Could be something you're not aware of yet. Or just sporadic control problems. Not every dream is going to offer up 100% control each time.