'Sexual desire' keeps breaking my dreams

**InfernoCem** · 02-12-2014 12:16 AM

Yes, I am still a virgin and as a teenager, sex is a mentally unstable 'craving' that keeps messing up my lucidity. Nearly every lucid I had ended with me attempting in sexual activity. My last dream, I stopped myself, but even the thought of it spawned a DC before my eyes and suddenly woke me up. (I am not sure whether it 'wakes' me or I just continue with a non-lucid)
I believed it was due to my expectation of having sex resulting in something 'amazing' to happen; in these cases, it's wake up time

So what can I do about this? Surface the desire in waking life? (Doubt this will happen

) - also, majority of these lucids ended up as wet dreams.

**Dthoughts** · 02-12-2014 01:17 AM

I believed it was due to my expectation of having sex resulting in something 'amazing' to happen

I agree with you, I also think the overexpressed excitement might be what wakes you up. I understand that is not good!

So then you need to give up expectations. Or atleast reduce your level of excitement/desire. I think the best solution is to just have loads of sex until you are bored with it to get over it.

More intimate advise that is also based on my own experiences not urs; Real life sex is not what you expect it to be. Not any idea you have about sex will be able to predict what happens when you are actually put into the situation where you are allowed to get in a girl's pants. Ultimately, it requires a level of closeness and intimacy that is unique and personal for every self-conscious individual. The bonding experience is more satisfying and permanent than the fleeting experience of sex itself. Believing this is true makes me naturaly desire bonding more than sex so that's why I posit it to you. Cheesy I know

And that was just a thought based on how I see my reality. I doubt about it cus of lack of experience myself

For you!! I just urge you to fantasize more really and have respect for your own wishes. . Just do it calmly and with patience. Hope that helps

**JadeGreen** · 02-12-2014 04:29 AM

I commonly recommend the application of a MILD mantra to combat something such as this, but that may not be the best route for you to take. If you are good at visualizing, perhaps consider visualizing a past dream where this has happened, and "relive" it up until where the sex starts. Then you can alter the dream and pretend that you take another course of action and go enjoy your lucid rather than having sex. You could even try making copies of your dream journal entries and rewriting them to what you desire rather than what is actually happening.

You could also try acknowledging the dreams' message. Generally issues like this arise when your subconscious is trying to pass on an important message. When you are presented with this situation, you could try saying/thinking to yourself "I know that my drive to have sex while in my dream is strong, but I must focus the other things that I want to do during my lucid dreams."

You might even consider challenging yourself to remain lucid during the sex, as this a very difficult thing to do. Try to stabilize the dreams and hang on to your lucidity throughout. This difficult "training" could help to strengthen your lucidity.

Speaking from personal experience, I had a lucid not too long ago where I was merrily flying around when approached by an attractive female dream character who began undressing. I opened a telepathic conversation and told her that I was simply non interested in any sex, but that perhaps she could return in another dream. The dream character left the scene and I continued on with my lucid dream.

**InfernoCem** · 02-12-2014 08:35 AM

Basically, I woke up again and had a semi-lucid DIELD. I forgot it was a dream and I ended up watching it, ironically the dream become a reality show and I was admiring all the pretty girls. I wasn't lucid in the sense of control, but in the sense of thought, yes. I jumped in and with a single 'thrust' (sexy time started again), I orgasmed and I tried to hold onto the lucidity, because I just noticed that this sexual crave allowed my conscience to kick in. But I tried to decrease the amount of sensation I should be receiving, and as per usual, it all went dark and I woke up, dirty. I just woke up now and saw these comments, thanks.

**Myke Gregory** · 02-12-2014 04:32 PM

Have you tried masturbating before you go to sleep?
Just an idea, but bare in mind it can REDUCE dream recall doing that.

**Dthoughts** · 02-12-2014 05:30 PM

A method of mastrubation ain't gonna work unless you do it persistently. I'll give it 2 hours of rest and ur back to being horny again. It does satisfy short-term need but the problem will just come back if you don't mastrubate regularly..

You see, the sexual crave is your will-power presenting itself. It is this will-power that allows you to control the dream, so what you need is a different desire to cancel it out. I have an idea though,

I've heared it before that sex kicks in a burst of lucidity
Why don't you shift your focus from the goal of decreasing this sex drive to actually utilize it in this way and crave this lucid burst that happens after orgasm (edit: i tried achieving this myself with no succes tho!)
I do not think it is healthy to disengage from sensations. You want to be as aware as possible of every detail and enjoy it to the fullest. And actually satisfy ur need once and for all.
Then the need will still present itself, but a satisfied man has the power to say "NO, maybe later" to a girl that is undressing for you. As Jadegreen demonstrates right here that men are capable of controling their urges. ^^ You are an example for us all Jade! hahahaha