Expectation and the willingness to lie to yourself. Confidence even if it is undeserved. You hear people tell you to just believe that some thing will be where you are looking for it, but maybe you are hoping it will be there. Hoping, is expressing doubt. If you need to, then pretend you have confidence. Say you go to a drawer and you want the ring. Actually state, "I left my ring in this drawer," open the drawer and reach in. Let's say you do not find it; refuse to admit it. Think "oh cool here it is" maybe even say it out load. Reach in and grab what ever is in there. With the appearence of complete confidence make the same motions you would as if you saw the ring. Put it on your finger even if you have yet to see it. Then go on with the story as if it worked. Say out loud "awesome, now I have the ring" and maybe even show it (even if you do not see it) to someone.
This takes practice. The idea is simply to refuse to accept that you will not get your way, and continue as if you did get what you want. You may end up actually having the ring on your finger, when you go to show some one. Before long, you will master the art of fooling yourself. Or in other words "Fake it, until you make it."
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