
Originally Posted by
FryingMan
Thank you for providing the information, there's a lot of useful information there that I think you haven't yet mentioned about yourself on these forums!
Setting intention is not the same thing as MILD, where you repeat a mantra over and over to yourself until you fall asleep. I'd have trouble doing that too, especially at bedtime. Setting intention is as simple as telling yourself once, at bedtime, "I remember my dreams."
It may not be important how many times you tell it to yourself -- with strong enough belief once may be enough. But I personally probably tell it to myself around 10 times, or sometimes more. Maybe for a full minute sometimes I'll repeat to myself "I remember my dreams," then I stop and empty my mind and aim to fall asleep.
I also sometimes mix in embellishments like "I completely remember my dreams from beginning to end," or "I have very vivid, long dreams." Also, "I have interesting and meaningful dreams" (from LaBerge).
For DILD I use various statements like: "I'm dreaming." "I recognize the dream state." Or the full LaBerge (mouthful) "The next time I'm dreaming, I remember to recognize that I'm dreaming." Sometimes (I think I got this from fogelbise) I'll say "The next thing I see is a dream."
The point here is that you do not need to hold these thoughts in your head until you fall asleep. If you *can*, then that would probably make them more effective. But don't worry. Try telling yourself *once* right when you lie down for bed (or just before), and then aim directly for sleep with an empty mind.
Try telling yourself just once. Then if you don't notice any issues with sleep, the next night, tell yourself twice or three times. And so on, building up confidence in yourself that you can easily fall asleep after setting some intentions.
Setting intention is widely regarded as being *extremely* important in lucid dreaming. The Tibetan monks who practice dream yoga consider setting strong intent to lucid dream during the night as one of the most important parts of the bedtime ritual in order to experience lucid dreams.
This is your first assignment: Choose one or more short intention statements, and repeat them to yourself at bedtime. As I mentioned, start small (just one time), and over time build up to longer and longer setting intent times (more repetitions). Really believe what you tell to yourself, and feel like the statement is a really important goal for you. Our brains are really good at remembering important intents.
This is another important piece of data about you, and maybe an important insight into your not reaching your lucidity goals. We all wake up at night briefly in between sleep cycles as dreams finish -- just most of the time we immediately fall back asleep and don't remember the waking, just like we don't remember much (or any) of the dreams of the previous REM cycle. Like it or not, learning to recognize these brief wakings and use them beneficially for lucid dreaming is a major part of a lot of lucid dreaming practice. Recognizing these wakings is an ability that can be learned and developed. It's true that alarms can be used to wake in the middle of the night but there are problems with alarms, the main one being they wake you up too abruprtly and may end your sleeping for the night.
The benefits of recognizing these wakings for dream recall and lucid dreaming are numerous: 1) you recall more dreams! If you recall 2-3 dreams at the end of the night, you very well may recall 2-3 dreams *per waking* for the night, resulting in 12-15 or more dreams recalled for the night. Now, noticing *every* waking can sometimes be tiring, but that is how I started out: for my first 3 months I set intention to: remember dreams; wake after every dream; and become lucid. I was so excited to wake all through the night and remember so many interesting, funny, weird, exciting dreams. Being excited about dream recall is also really important in developing the ability to its highest level. 2) These wakings are a great time to renew your intention to become aware in dreams: restate your intentions, perform MILD, perform WILD, perform DEILD, or just get up a bit for a WBTB. In short, the foundation of most of the approaches we use to promote lucidity all depend on the ability to notice wakings in the middle of the night.
So here is your second assignment: once you are comfortable setting intention before going to bed, Set intention at bedtime to notice your wakings in the middle of the night. I personally used the statement "I wake up after every dream." Some people think this is too strong and could result in actually waking up fully. Another option is "I notice the wakings between sleep cycles." A longer one I've used is "I wake up after every dream, remain still, and recall my dreams." In these wakings, at first spend just a short time trying to recall dreams from the prior sleep cycle, maybe repeat one or two intents, and then aim directly to fall asleep again.
When recalling dreams, remember to remain physically still (noticing your wakings is important here, too: if you can realize you've woken up before you've moved, you can best recall your dreams at that moment), and stay mentally quiet. You're not trying to "force" yourself to remember dreams, you're just trying to cast your mind back into your recent experience searching for memories (of dreams, since your "recent experience" was dreaming). You can ask yourself "What was I just dreaming about?". Spend some time on doing this, I'd recommend 10-15 minutes at least. The best way to build great dream recall is to reach for dream memories every time you find yourself awake.
There are two concrete things for you to try. If you can master them (or even just get a little bit better at them), I believe your chances for lucidity will improve quite a bit. Realize that it may take you time to get good at doing these tasks, so be patient, and always maintain positive thoughts about your dreams and the practices you use to reach lucidity.
Let us know in this workbook how you progress! Once you get good at these then we can start looking at DILD techniques like MILD.
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