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    Family of kidnappers

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    JoannaB
    , 07-09-2013 at 09:03 AM (578 Views)
    In this dream my mother was searching for a daughter of hers who had disappeared years ago. On the other hand she had kidnapped a boy to be her child in return.

    Some distant relatives (who don't exist in real life) were visiting from out of town, and they had originally not planned to include my mother in their dinner get togethers because they blamed her for not giving up on finding her daughter. But because my mom had prepared sweets they liked, they included her in all their get togethers after all but as a second tier family member. I remember thinking that those relatives ate too much.

    What complicated matters further was the child my mother had kidnapped was a child of those relatives of ours but they did not know that she had him.

    In my dream I was talking to this boy, and telling him that his kidnapping was wrong and should have been reported to the police, but that my mom who now was his mom loves him very much. I said that I am to blame too, because I could have reported it to the police but chose not to, because I love him very much too. He said "Yea yea yea, whatever." That is something this boy often says in real life. I hugged him, and he was even more skin and bones than he is in reality, and in reality my son is very skinny - yes, the boy whom my mother had kidnapped in my dream, in reality is my son (and let me assure you no one in our family got kidnapped ever).

    The hug was tight, and bittersweet, i felt deep love and remorse. As I hugged my son (whom I believed to be my kidnapped brother) in the dream, we were in a hallway, and there was some sort of bed frame there but not a full bed. The place was a mess. He commented on it why couldn't this bed be reassembled, and why couldn't he sleep here.

    I am not sure, but I think I woke up after this.

    I staid up a bit longer deliberately once my bed was free before going back to bed, but fell asleep without any awareness and was too tired to even remember right away that I had attempted to WBTB let alone anything after.

    fragment: work related fragment. I was talking with people I do not usually interact with at work. They were commenting in an email exchange I had in real life with someone they work with. And they also told me something I did not know that I will need to periodically contact someone (don't know who or why) because a former coworker of mine it was his responsibility, so now it is mine. I said nobody told me, and I was grateful for their advice.

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    Updated 07-09-2013 at 11:43 AM by 61501

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    1. JoannaB's Avatar
      I think my husband correctly interpretted this dream! You see in reality my son fell asleep on my side of the bed and my husband was already asleep too, so there was no room there for me, plus I could not find a blanket, so I went to my son's bed and stole his blanket for the night, and went to sleep on the sofa. The daughter that in my dream had been kidnapped from my mother years ago may in part represent my side of the bed that my son kidnapped from me! Then I stole his blanket, so that is him getting kidnapped by my mother with my complicity in my dream. And the bed frame in the hallway "why can't I sleep here?" fits the weird sleeping arrangements for tonight. I was both myself and my mother in this dream, so then it makes more sense that my son is my mother's son in dream if my mother is me too.

      So you see it's probably about sleeping arrangements compared to kidnappings! After all a kid was involved, and in reality he was napping in my bed. LOL
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    2. JoannaB's Avatar
      Of course that explanation can't be all of it since kidnappers are a long term dream sign of mine.
    3. Nelzi's Avatar
      Some twisted family situations going on in your life... anyhow, a creative interpretation!
    4. JoannaB's Avatar
      I had another thought about the interpretation of this dream: if my mother in this dream represents me, then the daughter who was kidnapped from me and my kidnapping my son in return this could be about my miscarriage right before I had my son. Out of some reason I always thought that the child I miscarried would have been a daughter, even though I do not know why, because it was too early to tell. I became pregnant again very soon after the miscarriage. Perhaps this dream is in part dealing with the complex issue of my grief for the child that I did not have, and yet if I had had her, I would not have had my son - oh sure I would have had a second child, but the child would have been born at another time and well it would not have been my son. Perhaps the reason why the relatives in the dream object to the mother looking for her kidnapped child after many years, is that part of me is objecting to how can I grieve for the miscarried daughter if I love my son? To which my answer is that a mother's love does not have to be logical: I can both grieve for the miscarried child and love the one I got with all my heart, even if they could not both have been carried to term due to timing.
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    5. GrannyPigms's Avatar
      Hum, the second interpretation seems more likely. Although a little bit more confusing for me to understand (heh). It seems that a dream about kidnapping, would be more likely to be triggered by all that instead of sleeping arrangements. But that's just me, sometimes dreams surprise us.

      I would try to think up one of my own interpertations, but I couldn't possibly know enough about your life to do so, seeing as this is a very emotionally involved dream.

      Sweet dreams.
    6. JoannaB's Avatar
      I believe that dreams are like onions with many layers of meaning, so it's not that one interpretation is right and the other wrong but how many interpretations appear right to the dreamer, and yes I agree that dreamer her- or himself is in better position to interpret due to having more context, but others can come up with idea that may trigger some other ideas for the dreamer. I believe that dreams are as confusing as they are because they work by creating associations between the present and past and ideas which the conscious mind might not realize can be related but the subconscious finds a correlation or several correlations. A good dream may be a perfect metaphor with many different connotations and many meanings. If one had to tell literally all that the dream is telling metaphorically and through thought associations, one would need much more time than the dream took. That's the beauty of dream shorthand.

      I knew that this dream had deeper meanings than just sleeping arrangements, but that was a valid initial interpretation of why I had this dream this particular night: my mind liked the pun kidnappers from napping kid. However, kidnappers are also a recurring dream sign for me from before this night, and the other dreams about kidnappers cannot be interpretted to be about the miscarriage in my opinion, so I suspect that there is some other meaning to this dream still, a meaning that might explain why I keep dreaming of kidnappers: now it could of course be just the literal meaning of kidnapping as a parent's nightmare, but since I am not really worried about kidnapping during waking life, I suspect another meaning.
      Updated 07-24-2013 at 10:34 PM by JoannaB