Thread: When you dream of someone they are dreaming of you.

well, i've had dreams about my familywhen they're just one room over perfectly awake, so i don't know. of course, most dreams i have in the morning are lucids, so maybe its only for non-lucids.

I'm leaning towards not true on this one. I think if this were true we would know it as fact by this juncture. I don't judge a thing on feelings because to often they have been wrong for me personally. I also speak openly about my dreams and tell people when I have dreamed of them. Not once did i get" Oh my god! I dreamed about you too!". They could all have poor dream recall but still my rational side is just saying no.

what if you dream of a dead person?

Originally Posted by snoop

what if you dream of a dead person?

Well, some refer to it as the big sleep, so.....

Originally Posted by Infinityjester

I'm leaning towards not true on this one. I think if this were true we would know it as fact by this juncture. I don't judge a thing on feelings because to often they have been wrong for me personally. I also speak openly about my dreams and tell people when I have dreamed of them. Not once did i get" Oh my god! I dreamed about you too!". They could all have poor dream recall but still my rational side is just saying no.

everything he said.

Originally Posted by splodeymissile

Well, some refer to it as the big sleep, so.....

So... what? Are you joking or should I take what you said seriously? It's dumb that I have to ask but I know which section of DV I'm in so I'd rather be safe than sorry.

it was a joke. Although, I wonder what would it would be like if there was some shared consciousness that we go to when we either sleep or die. Certainly be interesting if you were able to make a dead person lucid.

i dont know if i am delusional. i am pretty sane most of the time. for the past 3 days ive been having "awake dreams" with a girl (she is kind of spiritual , sees spirits from time to time and likely has an open 3d eye). It is like she is there with me giving hugs and kisses. it feels physical. I can see her at times if my breathing is good enough. I talk to her. (mind you, not chit-chat just thoughts) and she said she was having trouble with her parents. just tonight i actually dreamed of fighting with her parents. lol. huge bickering and yelling. this is not me, i've met her parents once or twice i would never big-mouth at them. it's all just weird. in the end of the dream i found her lying in her bed fast asleep. it was a weird experience.

i wonder if any of these feelings are mutual.. but it's a really awkward question to ask. this is a recurring problem for me >_<

Based on my experience, your dreams about someone may contain elements of real contact with them that aren't wholly in your own mind. But it doesn't mean they are dreaming about you when you dream about them, and it doesn't mean that they have the thoughts that you attribute to them. What you're doing may be a bit like psychic stalking, facilitated by whatever openness they have in relation to you.

Even on those occasions when you and another person do consciously share a dream experience, it doesn't imply that the two experiences happen simultaneously. I've had many such experiences and for me they're never simultaneous.

@ shadowofwind. I think the same thing. Except simultaneous. In time.. Seems to be the norm. It doesn't have to be the same experience tho. I think it is remarkable that we and so many others have arrived to basically the same conclusions.

Last night, i had a dream about my celebrity crush: the actress Kate Beckinsale. I want to think that she dreamt about me too.

Originally Posted by Dthoughts

@ shadowofwind. I think the same thing. Except simultaneous. In time.. Seems to be the norm.

Maybe it happens that way mostly as a way of organizing events in a way that you'll recognize? If you had some other way to tie things together, or weren't expecting simultaneity, maybe it wouldn't happen that way? Maybe there's some other reason, I'm just speculating. I've had a lot of such experiences and I don't think any of them were simultaneous.

Originally Posted by shadowofwind

Maybe it happens that way mostly as a way of organizing events in a way that you'll recognize? If you had some other way to tie things together, or weren't expecting simultaneity, maybe it wouldn't happen that way? Maybe there's some other reason, I'm just speculating. I've had a lot of such experiences and I don't think any of them were simultaneous.

Are these lucid dreams mostly? I think these things are way easier recognizable in lucid dreams. I'm just looking around my DJ and most of my more "foretelling" dreams have been in periods where i had lucid dreams either just before or after those dreams.

Anyway, i think you have a point. My collection of dreams is not interesting enough to even make an accurate calculations about this. All i can really tell is that by scrolling around my old dreams in my dream journal it is revealing things about other people that i have only learned from them in person AFTER i've had those dreams. (Like musical preference, emotional state of mind, fantasies)

Most dreams are plain weird tho. I can not understand them other than a nice experience.

Originally Posted by Dthoughts

Are these lucid dreams mostly? I think these things are way easier recognizable in lucid dreams. I'm just looking around my DJ and most of my more "foretelling" dreams have been in periods where i had lucid dreams either just before or after those dreams.

I can't say if they're lucid or not. The wikipedia definition of lucid dream, "any dream in which one is aware that one is dreaming", implies a person would consider whether they are dreaming, in contrast to being awake. I would rarely do that, irrespective of how mentally active I am in the dream, because I never dream of waking life activities, so I would never confuse the two states.

With a premonition I'm lucid in the sense that I can think about what I feel, which helps me understand the dream. Often there's also some knowledge about how to interpret the dream that's not in the dream but comes along with it, like auxiliary information. Sometimes the images in a dream are more defined than at other times, or the emotional impressions are stronger, or the dream has a more well defined plot. But that only means I'm more lucid in terms of those things, and very often those are not the most interesting aspects of the dream.

Originally Posted by Dthoughts

All i can really tell is that by scrolling around my old dreams in my dream journal it is revealing things about other people that i have only learned from them in person AFTER i've had those dreams. (Like musical preference, emotional state of mind, fantasies)

It sounds to me like many if not most of these are knowledge-from-a-distance rather than knowledge-of-the-future. If I have a dream of someone having an experience, then I ask them, and they say yes I had that experience, I could interpret that as a premonition of me asking them the question and getting an answer. There's a causal paradox if I wouldn't have answered the question without the dream, but maybe that's no problem. These kinds of dreams feel the same though even if I never attempt to verify the result. So I don't think its really a premonition of outwardly gaining the knowledge that was alluded to in the dream.

Of course there are also premonitions of future events, and I'd guess you've had some of those too. I think these cases are also a lot like the other cases though. Just as the outward confirmation of a dream isn't the 'cause' of the dream, the event that follows the premonition isn't the 'cause' of the premonition. Both are connected to something else.

I have almost no recognizable premonitions any more. I used to have one or two a week, then I started paying more attention to the shift in identity that accompanies the premontion, and as I became more aware of that the 'premonition' aspect of it pretty much went away. Also, I very rarely have the same dream more than once, and if I do there's a particular point to it. Since I've had a bunch of premonitions, maybe there isn't a reason for me to have a bunch more of them. Astral projection was like that for me too. I messed around with it a few times in different ways, then it hasn't happened since. I can revisit the memory though if I have a question about it, and its more than just a memory, I can feel something of the same thing in the present moment. All of these other dreams are like that too. Its like the dream is a door or a sign post, and if you go back to it you can experience what's behind it in the present. But I guess its not that way quite so much for some people, which is part of why some people try to do more with lucid dreaming.

From what i know, when you dream of someone, it's mostly because they are "thinking" of you. And many other reasons also...like they might have dreamt of you at the time or before.

Originally Posted by hathor28

From what i know, when you dream of someone, it's mostly because they are "thinking" of you. And many other reasons also...like they might have dreamt of you at the time or before.

What do you "know" that leads you to come to this conclusion? I find it hard to believe that you just know something like this, there must be a reason you don't believe that when you are dreaming of someone that it's not simply because you are dreaming of someone and nothing else.

I mean, I don't think the saying was ever meant to be taken literally. Some people just decided to, and now it's catching on as a popular *hopeful* belief by those who want it to be true.

Originally Posted by snoop

What do you "know" that leads you to come to this conclusion? I find it hard to believe that you just know something like this, there must be a reason you don't believe that when you are dreaming of someone that it's not simply because you are dreaming of someone and nothing else.

I mean, I don't think the saying was ever meant to be taken literally. Some people just decided to, and now it's catching on as a popular *hopeful* belief by those who want it to be true.

Through ancestors old knowledge. Does it bother you when i speak like i know something? Or shall i be a dummy? Reason why i blocked you.

Originally Posted by hathor28

Through ancestors old knowledge. Does it bother you when i speak like i know something? Or shall i be a dummy? Reason why i blocked you.

It must bother you that somebody asks you to justify your statements when they should be easily justifiable. Does it bother you that you are so unsure of and insecure about what you "know" that you have to block anybody that dares ask you to explain your reasoning? I know you can't read this, but everyone else can. What I'm saying goes for anyone else without the confidence or mental fortitude to even explain yourself. I will not block you though, hathor28, I do not get my jimmies all rustled when someone disagrees with me or asks a simple question. I hold myself above such pettiness.

Originally Posted by dancingqueen87

ive heard this on multiple occasions and i think its true. idk but ive always had a feeling.

Chances of one person to dream about another person because he is dreaming about you are higher simply because there is a chance that both of you are somehow connected, might be love, anger, friendship and so on. So you both think of each other and in the result you end up dreaming about each other. This might look like you are influencing somebody when you are dreaming of him, but most probably he will be dreaming about you only because he was thinking about you too.

I do not think this is somehow connected to Lucid Dreaming, at least for now.

I'm going with not true as well. I've had dreams of people who don't know I exist (or yet anyways) and I doubt they could dream of me too?

I am going to say not true based on personal experience. My mother has dreamed of me when I'm not dreaming of her, and I've dreamed of her when she's NOT dreaming of me.

~SilverWolf~

Hmm I think it's true because sometimes you don't think of someone or you don't even like him/her and you dream about that someone

My opinion is very cautious maybe yes. I don't have conclusive proofs. Sometimes it seems to be true, but it is very loosely connected dream reality, second person may remember meeting only partially similar to yours... and more often not then yes. Dreams, LDs are working with fantasy... we see what we want to see. Or our subconsciousness.

I think, time has not meaning so much in dreams. Similar to OBE(astral or other projections). I think even if your experiences differs in time of your personal experience, you can still connect.

To me it seems like the question is: Is Shared Dreaming Possible? In my experience, sometimes, yes. Also, from reading many others' accounts of shared dreaming, it can happen spontaneously, and can also be induced.