Quote Originally Posted by phoenelai View Post
I would think if you needed more control you should be closer to awake then sleep. I would really concentrate for at least a couple of months on waking up around 4AM, do a small task then go back
to bed, and focus on the HI's. Keep doing this unitl you start noticing the HI's, after a while you can enter the dream from those images, well rested already with more control. If not, try using some lucid induction files and do daytime WILDS or at least naps!
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You guys seem to get it wrong, I dont want MORE control, I just want SOME control and "be there" the time it happens. My dreams arn't like waking life experiences, it's more like... They never happened, but I can still recall a memory.

Quote Originally Posted by phoenelai View Post
Are you one of those people who dreams in third person (watching yourself doing things, that is)? I've heard of that, but personally I've never experienced a dream in third person. Anyway, I've talked to one person in real life who also dreams in third person, he says he's had lucid dreams in third person. He says he could still control his actions and stuff, even though he was "watching himself" do it. I can't really comprehend that, to be honest. But the point is that being in third person view and being lucid are NOT mutually exclusive.[/b]
Err, yeah, sorta? But as I said above, my dreams arn't waking life experiences (or so they feel), it's like they never happened. I'll give an example: I just sat on the toilet. I have that as a memory but when I actually sat on the toilet, I was actually on the toilet. Dúh? The difference with my dreams is, I have my dreams as a memory, but I was not actually there when they happened. You know what I'm saying?

That sucks and all, but really, that has nothing to do with whether or not you were "lucid" in the dream. Being lucid merely means that you are aware that you are in a dream. Here's a direct quote from the Dream Views page entitled What is Lucid Dreaming: "If, by chance, during a dream it suddenly dawns on you that you are dreaming, then you have experienced a lucid dream, regardless of whether you have been able to attain control of your dream."[/b]
I know, I think I said that in post 1. I have had lucidity, but no controlled lucid dreams etc.

This "problem" is really only a matter of the quality of your dream memories. For nearly everyone, dream memories are considerably more vague and unstable (prone to being forgotten) than waking memories. They are as you describe. They seem so vague that you can barely even consider yourself as having experienced them... like they just "appeared" in your memory. Here's the thing that some people don't realize: memories from a lucid dream are the same way! They are typically hazy, vague, etc... just like normal dreams. (At least, for most people they are... not everybody though, the lucky bastards. Check out this thread: Lucid Dreams versus "real" (non-dream) Memories) This is, unfortunately, just the nature of dream recall. It doesn't mean that you didn't actually experience those things. Because you did. It's really the same as when you try to recall memories from your childhood. You can recall them, but the memories are so distant and vague that you can hardly believe that you actually experienced them once. It's hard to believe that at one time, that experience was "right now." But it was. Try it right now... try to remember something from when you were in 3rd grade. You'll find the memory to be quite dream-like. However, you know that it "really happened."[/b]
I know. But the difference between waking life experience recalls and dream recalls is that when the event actually occured, I was there in waking life, but I was not actually there in the dream when it occured.

So you see, the only "problem" is that your expectations are a bit too high. The way you have been experiencing them is, unfortunately, the way it is. I only have 2 suggestions...
--The next time you become lucid in a dream, try thinking "out loud" to yourself, and reflect on the fact that you really are experiencing all of this in the here-and-now. For instance, "I am lucidly dreaming right now. I know that I will be awake later, but as for right now, I am dreaming. The floor feels solid beneath my feet, even though I know I am really asleep in my bed. I see (whatever is around you), even though I know I am really asleep in my bed. I am experiencing all of this right now." The idea here is that in the morning you will be able to remember not only what happened in the lucid dream, but also what you were thinking in the lucid dream. It will probably make the memory of the experience seem significantly more "real."[/b]
You see, I can't. I think you misunderstood me, because the way I've been experiencing it is not the only way it is; I seem to dream differently than most people. Check my comments on the other quotes. And thus, I can not actually say those things in a lucid dream, as I am not actually there the moment it happens.\

--The other suggestion is to practice WILD some more. I think that a seamless, fully-conscious transition from wakefulness to dreaming would be just what the doctor ordered for you .[/b]
Bingo. That's what I've been thinking.

The eternal question. Second only to "Was this a lucid dream?!" Anyway, the eternal answer is: practice. You will get better at exerting dream control through experience. However, there are lots of tips. Most of them center around being creative in causing your desired effect. Examples:
--Want to fly, but can't? Try manifesting a jet pack, or a magic carpet. Or try growing wings.
--Want to make someone appear before you? Try calling out their name and asking them to come to you.
--Can't seem to give yourself super speed or strength? Try manifesting some "super strength" pills. Or perhaps try to imagine that rather than you speeding up, the world around you is slowing down.
--Manifest a magic wand. You'll be amazed what you can do with it!
--Can't seem to manifest an object? Approach a DC and ask them to give you one. Or try purchasing one in a store.
--Verbals commands are often very helpful when visualization alone just won't quite cut it. "On the other side of that door is (wherever). When I talk through that door, I will be in (wherever)."[/b]
Control like THAT is not an issue, I more meant control as in actually being there... See comments to all the quotes above XD

Here's a good read for you: BillyBob_001's guide, My Perspective On Dreams (and How To You Can Be A God)[/b]
I'll read it but as you misunderstood me, I doubt for now it'll do me any good.

Hope all this has been an eye-opener for you [/b]
You did somewhat help me but you misunderstood me mostly so ... ;P