Thread: Tell Me About How To Get Girls To Like You

Women are attracted to certain characteristics.

They are attracted to Confidence
They are attracted to Men who take care of there looks
They are attracted to Leaders
They are attracted to outgoing men
They are attracted to guys who are self-assure
They are attracted to a guy they have to work to get
They are attracted to guys who have high value
They are attracted to guys who aren't there emotional tampon

There I just gave you a crash course.

Originally Posted by Jorge

They are attracted to guys who have high value
They are attracted to guys who aren't there emotional tampon

Elaborate on those two, please.

High value, meaning they worry about themselves for themselves. Meaning, you dress good and smell good because you want to for yourself. You take care of yourself because that's the type of person you are. You don't accept no less than your standards, and you do what you want to do regardless of what anybody believes or thinks. He also knows that women are nothing "magnificent" and that should not be put on a pedestal how social conditioning try's to push on men. He knows that he does what he wants when he wants. Best way I can explain it.

Being an emotional tampon are guys who listen to women and all there problems and wonder why they go back to "that jerk" they are always talking to you about. You listen and listen to her thinking that she will one day see you as "the one" and she will leave her man for you. When in reality, you will always be in the friend zone with her because you put yourself there, and you are acting no more different than "her girlfriends."

I've never understood this whole thing about 'getting people to like you'.
The trend seems that only the people dissatisfied with themselves ask these questions.
I'd consider that something more pressing to be looked at rather than tips and gimmicks.

Originally Posted by ClouD

I've never understood this whole thing about 'getting people to like you'.
The trend seems that only the people dissatisfied with themselves ask these questions.
I'd consider that something more pressing to be looked at rather than tips and gimmicks.

You don't understand social acceptance?

Originally Posted by lordyM

:O

EDIT: socially unconfident/awkward btw

You need to fix this first. Once you do, girls won't be problem.

Originally Posted by Jorge

You don't understand social acceptance?

What I meant by not understanding it, is that you cannot 'get people to like you'. I don't like the idea of masking insecurity with a façade of personality traits, it doesn't seem logical to me.

Self acceptance sorts out many social problems, and IMHO that is the better to advise.

learn to like yourself first and find strength in that, the women will follow

All of the above, and then just like girls and don't try to hide it or worry about it, don't worry if they like you back, and without trying to get anything from them, ie. their acceptance. Girls will be flattered if they know that you think they are attractive, likeable, atc. as long as you don't seem needy and you respect yourself as much as you like them. Like yourself as much as you like a girl, and don't get too hung up on one girl, stay fluid, and appreciate all the girls, so that she knows that you think that she is beautiful, but that she is not the only beautiful girl.
Beautiful women were beautiful/cute children, and they grew up hearing it. Don't be just another person that thinks that they are special, but don't pretend that you aren't attracted to them. If you pursue them, they will run. Don't pursue, and they will be curious. Flatter them, but only out of confidence and self-assurance, and remain unattached, until she bites the bait. Then reel her in slowly, not too fast. And when you reel her in, let her go a little bit, then reel her in a little more, then let her go, until you have her in your net.
You can only do this if you are not attached to results because you have all the self-assurance you need within yourself. Don't look to the girl to fill any void within yourself. No girl wants to fill a void. Rather, fill her void.

If you look descent to attractive and have good hygiene you might consider learning body language there are many sources online on the subject.

Originally Posted by MementoMori

learn to like yourself first and find strength in that, the women will follow

Couldn't have said it better my self MM!

Develop and cultivate your presence.

Originally Posted by lordyM

:O

EDIT: socially unconfident/awkward btw

In that case, you might not want to focus on girls to begin with. I suggest choosing a medium of exercise and honing a skill you enjoy.

Originally Posted by Dannon Oneironaut

No girl wants to fill a void. Rather, fill her void.

Good advice though, Dannon.

Originally Posted by MementoMori

learn to like yourself first and find strength in that, the women will follow

Finally. :/.If you can't like yourself, how do you expect others to like you?

In my experience girls are attracted to funny guys. I'm suprised noone mentioned this earlier.

Confidence, charisma, outgoing, being funny, it's all connected.

Being an emotional tampon are guys who listen to women and all there problems and wonder why they go back to "that jerk" they are always talking to you about. You listen and listen to her thinking that she will one day see you as "the one" and she will leave her man for you. When in reality, you will always be in the friend zone with her because you put yourself there, and you are acting no more different than "her girlfriends."

My ex gf was my one of my best friends for 2 years before we became an item. I find your statement to be very untrue. Not that she ever talked about stuff like that, but I really disagree with the whole friendship zone thingy that so many guys go on about. Love has it's roots in the friendship zone.

Originally Posted by XeL

In my experience girls are attracted to funny guys. I'm suprised noone mentioned this earlier.

Confidence, charisma, outgoing, being funny, it's all connected.



My ex gf was my one of my best friends for 2 years before we became an item. I find your statement to be very untrue. Not that she ever talked about stuff like that, but I really disagree with the whole friendship zone thingy that so many guys go on about. Love has it's roots in the friendship zone.

I respect your opinion. Let me just explain to you how I view what I was talking about when I said "emotional tampon." When I wrote that I was talking more of the "general" situations of being an emotional tampon. Which are: being Mr. Taxi and taking all of her friends to the club or to go out often. Listening to her problems on almost a daily basis. Telling her "pick-ups" like "He doesn't deserve you" "You deserve better. etc" Now, I'm not saying it's bad to do that, but when you are interested in a women that you would like to be interested in you back...that's not a good route to go. Also, you admittedly said:

"Not that she ever talked about stuff like that"

...well there it is dude.

Being an emotional tampon can have any variation to it. There's different levels of what an emotional tampon person can be. For example, in your case you guys were friends for two years and you guys clicked...that's cool. There's a lot of factors that come into play when it comes to attraction. You could have just had characteristics that she was attracted to. You probably weren't her "taxi driver" whenever she wanted to go out with her friends. Or maybe you weren't her "talk box" how I stated earlier about listening to all of her problems. Maybe you displayed confidence, attractive body language, etc etc..

If that was the case, then you aren't really considered an "emotional tampon." Yes you were her friend, but as I explained above there are a ton of factors that can create attraction.

However, that's pretty rare in my opinion.

The majority of the time, being a woman's "best-friend" you are taken advantage of. When she always tells you her problems, using you as a driver, using your money to buy her and all her friends drinks, doing her constant "favors" etc etc...

Like I said from the beginning, these are just my opinions from both personal experience and others experience.

You don't have to answer this, but if you don't mind me asking...How long did you guys last?



Take care.

Originally Posted by ClouD

What I meant by not understanding it, is that you cannot 'get people to like you'. I don't like the idea of masking insecurity with a façade of personality traits, it doesn't seem logical to me.

Self acceptance sorts out many social problems, and IMHO that is the better to advise.

I respect that statement. I also agree with you partially, self acceptance is great. However, if you want to exceed past where you currently are now, then develop those characteristics or other characteristics. I posted those earlier because that is pretty much what most women are attracted to. I didn't tell him to change, I just posted the facts of my opinion.

Also, it's not really about "Masking" those traits, but truly gaining them. They are all positive, becoming confident, becoming better socially, taking care of yourself and your looks, being more outgoing, and not being "easy" for the woman to get you. Let me clarify that last bit real quick. The way the social game is, women are the leaders major-idly. They know they can get any guy they want, they know they can control and manipulate men to buy them drinks, they have social power. Why? Simply because men don't have Higher Value than women, they display "interest" way to easily and women use that to control. If you show some "slight interest" then that's a whole story in itself. That's why when I said "Women like men they have to work to get." it was because it truly makes the women more attracted. What do you think women find interesting? Guys who are easy to get like 90% of them...or guys they have to do a little bit of work to get him "fully interested?"

We were together for 4 months, then we went back to be friends again.

And I see what you mean. The reason to why I reacted to that was because:

Being an emotional tampon are guys who listen to women and all there problems and wonder why they go back to "that jerk" they are always talking to you about. You listen and listen to her thinking that she will one day see you as "the one" and she will leave her man for you. When in reality, you will always be in the friend zone with her because you put yourself there, and you are acting no more different than "her girlfriends."

To me, being in the friendship zone doesn't have anything to do with being an emotional tampon. Friendship is friendship. Licking ass and/or not being yourself something else.

You made it sound as if it was the same thing. Sorry if I misunderstood you on that matter.

Originally Posted by XeL

We were together for 4 months, then we went back to be friends again.

And I see what you mean. The reason to why I reacted to that was because:



To me, being in the friendship zone doesn't have anything to do with being an emotional tampon. Friendship is friendship. Licking ass and/or not being yourself something else.

You made it sound as if it was the same thing. Sorry if I misunderstood you on that matter.

No problem. I should have been more specific as well.

Take care.

One word: Chloroform.

But seriously, fix the social awkward part, girls like guys who they can stimulating conversations with. Learn to talk to women and they'll respond to you. Most guys think it's hard, but talking to a pretty girl is absolutely no different than talking to a guy, it's all in your head. If you realize that, you'll be fine. I recommend going into the deep end, go somewhere where there are lots of women, suck it up and go up to the hottest one there and strike up a conversation.

Originally Posted by ninja9578

One word: Chloroform.

ahahahaha! You seriously made me lol

Do you want a GIRL's advice to this? I am one. I'd be happy to help. Although I am no sensei on relationships.

Second post. Don't be harsh. If I can think of one thing off the top of my head right now, it is this:

Make it blatant and obvious she means a lot to you. (but don't be too obvious in the beginning or that'd be "coming on too strong")

If you can make it clear that she is your world, you could it in return. KEEP IN MIND you don't want to go right out there and make this clear if she isn't into you! If you just met her, take it slow. It may turn out you don't like her as much as you thought you would. If you have a few hints from her that she may like you back, give hints yourself. If your flirting is given praise, (that is what I did when I was "hinted", although HE never did THIS) step it up and do something big.

I can add to this if you like.

I used to be really awkward and shy around girls and wouldn't talk to them.
Nowadays, I'm really confident and outgoing and don't have any problem getting dates or hanging out with girls. I could go on for hours about this topic just based on my own personal experience but it basically comes down to this:

- Be direct and have confidence. Girls can read body language and how you feel really well, they'll know if you're holding back something or lack confidence.
- Just talk to lots of people. The more people you talk to, the easier it will be to talk to girls specifically. Chat with girls every chance you get, at the supermarket, coffee shop, school, etc.
- Be patient, you may have to wait a while to find the right girl for you. So just be patient and keep looking.