Thread: Tell Me About Dating and Relationships.

Originally Posted by Skarr

Can anyone here tell me about dating? I'm 18 and never had a girlfriend or dated. And I am curious about it. Is dating fun? Where is a good place to take a girl out on a date? Is 18 years old too late to be dating? If your 18, How old does the girl have to be for you to date? In Ohio. Where can a guy like me meet the perfect girl? How can you get a girl interested in you? I've never had any luck with any of the girls I've used to like. Most of the girls I meet already have boyfriends. I don't see whats wrong with me. I'm not ugly or anything. But I just wanted to know about dating and relationships. How can I make the relationship work out if I do get a girl? I'm shy and I have a hard time asking a girl out. And I get nervous about rejection wondering if she has a boyfriend or not. Any help would be appreciated.

Well, dating is SUPPOSED to be fun, lol!

Seeing as you're 18, the age of the girl is all upon you. However, if you seem to find "the one" and she's not in that age group, are you going to let her get away? Personally, I had a +/- 2yrs from me kind of as a guideline (I was in HS too so 3 or 4 yrs would be a little hard to work with). My GF is 2yrs younger than me

Anywhere you can think, of, you can take a girl. I've found that mini golf is usually pretty fun. The typical movies or dinner work as well. I take my GF to a seafood or an Italian place and she's putty in my hands, muahaha

As to where to meet girls... School? Mall, amusement park, local city park, restaraunt, skiing in the mnts? OH has places to ski, right, lol

Most important, be yourself. If you get into a relationship faking who you are, it's going to get tough. May be able to get away with it for a yr or 2 depending how often you see her, but it's going to get tough. Be yourself. You'll be SO much happier. And if you're not her cup of tea, she can go kick rocks/ pound sand

I find that humor is a pretty big thing. I've made friends with girls in my classes and seems it's my humor, I hope, that opens them up to you more. Self confidence is usually a big one also. Common interests is always great. Being able to have an intelligent conversation is a good one as well. My GF and I have serious conversations at times. We can also get on stints of jsut saying funny things. We also have shared interests. Oh, and if you don't watch Family Guy or Futurama, you're going to miss alot of our jokes. Have to be quick witted around us, lol

Girls that are already taken, it happens. There've been girls I liked, but found out they had BFs already. Seems to be a magnet for my buddy to find the girls with BFs, lol. Sucks for him

There may be nothing wrong with you. I didn't think girls liked me and wasn't until after HS that I found out 2 liked me and before that I was able to deduce that 4 liked me. Was kind of shocked actually for the 2 afterward, lol. You may not see it or pick up on it. The girl may be shy as well and is afraid of what might happen (The big "no", lol)

I'm shy as well, and I can't just walk up to a girl and start talking. It's better in a classroom enviroment for me because I can assess them whilst building up the courage to talk to them (which could be weeks, haha), so I'm right tere with you, I'm sure, lol. No problems though as I'm sure lots of people have the same problem. But once you start talking to them, it's easier to open up to them and be yourself

Don't overdo it though. Relax and be yourself

For rejection, take my point of view, and what my dad has always said, "The worst they can say is 'no'." And really, that's about it. Rejection happens to mostly everyone, so you're not alone

Originally Posted by Mes Tarrant

Be friends with the girl first - that way you'll find out everything you need to know, like whether or not she has a boyfriend, without it being all awkward. What I hate most is guys taking one look at me and assuming that I'm single. Single and looking. Really makes for some uncomfortable interactions, because at the moment I'm neither of those.

If you're new to dating, skip the typical "going to a dinner" or "seeing a movie," whatever. Find a girl who shares some of your interests and do those activities. Like video games? Have her come over to your house and play some games together. Like riding bikes? Go on a bike ride together.

It doesn't have to feel like a formal "date." Start by just... hanging out.

I find that knowing a girl as a friend is the best. You can gauge how they act and such. There's some girls I've liked, but after knowing them for a while, there were some quirks I jsut didn't care about, so cross her off the list, lol

Mini golf, skiiing, arcade, lunch, (dinner and a movie or vise verse is cliche, but should be about the time together), mall, there's so much you can do

Originally Posted by AngelOfLife

What the above post said is totally true ^^
Especially the end. Hanging out is the first thing. I have always wanted my guyfriend/crush to ask me to his house to just hang around. I want to meet his parents for real. I've had him over before. It was awesome.... But I'm going on a tangent here.

I would wait to get to know her before asking her out. Know her as a friend. But DON'T wait for MONTHS! Said guyfriend and I have been friends for the whole school year. He is a great friend. People kept asking if we were going out! I sadly had to say no.

Have a good attitude around girls. If one you like starts flirting with you, don't just absorb it, flirt back! IMPORTANT: Be respectful to her. (this is a good thing to remember.)

Hope I helped.

Want to come over and hang out? lol

Yup, if you wait, they may get taken by someone else. Happened to my buddy that I mentioned earlier. Was going to ask her out, and found out she jsut got a BF the week before. Lamesauce for sure!

Originally Posted by Replicon

I love you, Mes, but I kinda disagree with this. People who become your friends first are the ones you reject because they're "great guys who will find someone eventually, but are TOO NICE" - all after maybe months of spending time with you - and don't you dare deny it. I know your ego likes it that way, but this thread is about actually getting girls to like you for real real.

Also, let's face it: Guys who are interested in you but "go for the friendship first" are dishonest assholes because they're basically lying about their intent.

I think it's much, much better to just BE A MAN and be honest with your intent. It doesn't have to be creepy at all, and even if the girl does have a borefriend, she'll be flattered. As a matter of fact, at LEAST half of girls who have borefriends actually just use them as place-holders, and will drop them like a bad case of fleas the minute someone comes around who sweeps them off their feet the way they've always dreamed of, but would never admit it to even their closest friends.

I actually couldn't DISagree more. Yes, I'm sure a girl would like you to be intent on be true about your intentions, but I would think that there would be a high "umm... no" rate for sheer awkwardness. I can't say I've met a girl who would say "yes" to a random guy asking them out. You COULD be bold and ask after a few days or even weeks of talking, but not flat out without knowing them. If some random girl asked me, I would be very off guard, and may even say the wrong thing, or what I say could be mistaken (as I'd probably say "Kaaay..." and would prob be taken as "OK!")

I don't think it would be dishonest. Actually, I'd think it's be presuptious, and arrogant, for a guy to just ask a girl, as if he thinks he's THAT awesome he can jsut grab any girl

And for the last point in your quote, how is that supposed to help? So now half the girls I meet have a BF "just because"? Great, what if that's me? Yes, there's some douchy girls out there that would do that, but I don't think it's fair to put that stereotype on girls or to put that thought into someone's head who's trying to get HELPful advice