Thread: Tell Me About Dating

I have to admit... I'm 18. I've never been on a date, despite the fact that I've had two girlfriends. My first was at 11 and now she doesn't consider it an actual relationship given our age. My second was at 16 and lasted two weeks. Yeah, I'm pretty bad sometimes.

While I'm not really concerned about my perpetual singleness I do wonder from time to time about it. Seeing as this is a large community with probably lots of advise, I'm going to throw it out here. One question that I do have specifically is, must I have an emotional connection with a person - a crush, if you will - before I try to ask her out? That's how I've gone about things my whole life and of all the ones I've had crushes on, only one felt the same way for me. (My second girlfriend was the one who asked me out, but at the time I didn't have any feelings for her. )

I guess you don't have to have a crush on someone...it makes it easier though. If you do like someone, take them to a good restuarant, then possibly to go do something fun afterwards. Give it some time. It's nice to have some out of the ordinary ideas for a date.

Not necessarily. If you feel like there's (some) potential between you and a girl, but you don't like her yet, there's nothing wrong with giving it a try. Not only will you learn from it, the girl you're dating with will aswell, even if things don't work out. Just make sure that you aren't giving your date any false expectations. Especially if she's insecure and sensitive.

One doesnt have to "like" like someone before asking them out, but it's good if you at least find them interesting. dont want to ask out a major troll lol. It can be suprising to ask someone out, and find something strange or interesting about them, and go from there. Waiting to find a crush may take a while. You could suprise yourself by asking them out, and finding out they had a crush on you all the while.

Originally Posted by DeadDollKitty

One doesnt have to "like" like someone before asking them out, but it's good if you at least find them interesting. dont want to ask out a major troll lol. It can be suprising to ask someone out, and find something strange or interesting about them, and go from there. Waiting to find a crush may take a while. You could suprise yourself by asking them out, and finding out they had a crush on you all the while.

DDK will you go out with me?

STALKER!


youssarian, dont end up like slayer

Originally Posted by DeadDollKitty

One doesnt have to "like" like someone before asking them out, but it's imperative that you at least find them interesting.

Fixed.

Seriously, though. You do NOT want to get something started with a person who has little to nothing in common with you. You will NOT be happy. Bet your life on that.

You know what I'll do (and I'm being facetious with this although I may actually do it) is have her at some point take a personality test (http://www.humanmetrics.com/cgi-win/JTypes2.asp) to see how well her and I match up internally.