Thread: Which means more to you..

I just think that achievement is more of a status related thing whilst love is more of a caring emotion which makes me feel good knowing that someone feels that way about me.

I've never been in a serious relationship where a girl had been in love with me (I'm only 16:p) so I can't really say how much I'd appreciate being loved in that way. But if a member of my family was to say that they love me it'd probably mean very little as it's really a given. I'd expect members of my family to love me because that's what they do. It doesn't mean that they like me, they just get attached to me in that way because they've been stuck with me for 16 years. If anything It'd mean far more to me if someone told me that they liked me as a person.

I think you have a point. Love is thrown around so much now a days. So it would seem to me that proud would feel better, unless love was completley genuine

But doesn't loving somebody include pride by default? If you love somebody you accept them for who they are and rejoice in that. If you aren't proud of them would there not be something missing?

I can't say i'm qualified to answer the question as far as love between two unrelated people goes, but when it comes to my family i feel that pride is a part of my love for them. I love them and thus i'm proud of who they are.

Originally Posted by Ardent Lost

But doesn't loving somebody include pride by default? If you love somebody you accept them for who they are and rejoice in that. If you aren't proud of them would there not be something missing?

I can't say i'm qualified to answer the question as far as love between two unrelated people goes, but when it comes to my family i feel that pride is a part of my love for them. I love them and thus i'm proud of who they are.

I understand what you're saying.. but I also know that I can love someone and not always be proud of their actions.
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Good point. In that case i would say i prefer to be told i was loved, anyway. I feel that the pride of others in myself isn't something i seem to crave. Pride in myself is much more important. Whereas i find love to be empowering and also humbling.

depends who is saying it. If it's "i'm proud of you" for no apparant reason from a chick or someone i don't even know, it doesnt really mean much. Whereas "i'm proud of you" from someone you respect or someone like your father or your boss or something like that, after you've done something you feel is truely great, then it means a lot more.

For me, "I love you" means more, because for me, in general, it's always meaningful, no matter who the person saying it. In contrast to the previous example, if i heard "i love you" for no apparant reason from a chick or someone i don't even really know, that's just as meaningful as anyone else. Imo it's a lot harder to say "i love you" than to say "i'm proud of you"

Good point. In that case i would say i prefer to be told i was loved, anyway. I feel that the pride of others in myself isn't something i seem to crave. Pride in myself is much more important. Whereas i find love to be empowering and also humbling.

I couldn't have said it better myself. If you have pride in yourself you don't need to hear "i'm proud of you", if you like yourself, you don't need to hear "I love you", just a theory?